Celebrant

[Lou]

So we went off and saw a celebrant last night.  We have booked with her.  She was lovely. 

But man - seriously, I live in la-la land!  I had no idea about all the legalities/formalities of it.  Stupid dumb formality.  Sheesh.  She was filling out the Notice of intent to marry or something and asking all these questions, you know, mum's name, father's name etc.  I'm looking blankly at DP going - ummmmm, aren't we just getting married???

Then she shows me the legal marriage cert.  I'm still thinking "where's the pretty one?"  I don't want that dumb thing with my dad's name on it etc....

Clearly since I'm not changing my name, I don't have to get the legal one, so we're just having the nice one the celebrant gives you.  I only have to get the official one if I ever change my name (which I won't) then I can request the form anyway. 

But Frenchy - remember how you once said to me that it's soooooooo HARD if you want to be untraditional.  I 100% get it now.  Completely.  Even with the vows.......although there's so many to pick from, heaps of them have the "I witness", "choose thee" stuff in it.  Totally fine for other people, but it is very NOT me.  I just want normal words.  I get that some legal stuff MUST be there, but other than that geez.......and the amount of "pledging undying soul stuff"  WOW. 

Last night was a big reality shock for naive little Louway.  DP of course thinks it's hilarious.  We're sitting with the celebrant and I said to DP "You've done this before, you could've warned me" and the celebrant is sitting there obviously trying so hard not to laugh.  DP says to her - oh it's okay, laugh, we do. 

It was just weird how many times I had to say no though.  Being given away? No.  Changing names? No.  Having the traditional vows? No.  Having a blessing? No.  I just felt like I was being difficult by saying no so many times, but what else are you supposed to do? 

Don't get me wrong, I have cried at every wedding I've ever been to and I think the tradition is beautiful, but I was just taken aback by the "formality" of it all - and yes, I do realise that sounds silly.  It's just.....................real now, you know? 

[Frenchy]

We had the giggles during out celebrant interview.  I know what you mean, some of those examples they give you "i would die for you my love you are my soul ra ra ra" not for us.

We still don't have our proper marriage certificate, i haven't changed my name yet.

It's all starting to hit you isn't it Lou! Enjoy it, the build up is all part of the excitement, and don't worry, i still feel like a kid playing house when i say 'my husband' in conversation with strangers.

[Lou]

Phew Frenchy!  Yep - there's so much "fluff" that DP and I were giggling away together as well. 

[Snapdragon7]

lol

I remember being a bit surprised by the formality of it.  I've always thought a bit more about the 'marriage', than the 'wedding', and having heard that marriage is like a business partnership/deal, that's how it felt, filling out the paperwork.

[SuperLilly]

Aaah we go for our interviwe this weekend with the preist pastor or whatever she is.

We are getting married in a church.

Its a small small contry church because it costs just as much to have the h=chruch as it does the ceebrant here.

[Frenchy]

I actually don't remember there being too many formalities with ours, besides a couple of forms to sign.  For the ceremony, our celebrant pretty much let us have whatever we wanted.  She gave us a heap of readings and examples of vows and we just chose what we liked, mixed and matched a bit.

Usually the celebrant asks you what you appreciate and love about each other.  Ours were so matter of fact.  Mine was somehting like "I like how we have separate hobbies and interests as it allows us to be our own person"  His was something like "she has quality values" and "Nothing is ever a problem" (translated that means I can go in the shed and play with my car as much as i want and she doesn't get angry)

But i had a giggle at my brother in laws wedding.  There's were stuff like "Teddy loves how Magna can see straight into his heart and soul" ra ra.

Dont get me wrong, that's fine for some people, but IMO it didn't suit them.