Study or working and having no help

[Karzii]

Im considering going back to tafe next year, part time.
Since we have had big bs ive tried twice to go back but lets just say dp although he says he will help and support me (not financially, emotionally, work load etc) it is all just talk.  Ive ended up being burnt out and failing the subjects or just having to drop out to stop from failing everything.

How do you handle doing everything?


Basically id have to do everything for the boys (except give them a shower, dp does that) and do all the housework and find time to study.
Id probably have to put baby bs into care for one or two days (depending on $$$) if i studied externally or whenever i was at tafe if i went internally.  Just to make sure i could get some study done i guess.  Otherwise the only time i could study is when they are in bed.



Im thinking at this stage of doing a course so i can be an SSO (teachers aid) - that is a 6 month full time course or equiv part time.  And then doing something maybe like a cert 3 in disability so i can ultimately help in a classroom for kids with special needs.
Thats if there is enough call for that, which im not sure how to find out.

[SuperLilly]

I have always done what I can.

So I have studied part time, FT and one subject at a time.

Last time in my degree I was doing 2 units at a time..That was enough for me.

[Mrs Muppet]

Karz I already feel like  woman just doing what I do. I cant imagine trying to squeeze in study as well.

The only suggestions is setting a time in the evening that dp can 'babysit' so eg. 8-9pm sorta thing and/or child care. Or can the kids do an activity that frees you up for a little while?

Its not easy. I did consider uni before falling pregnant with bd as a back up plan. That has now been pushed forward to when she starts school by the time I finish uni I will be 47yo  . I know my limits and I cant manage anything more at the moment.

[Karzii]

yeah he wont "babysit".  Its what i said above, before hand when we talk about me doing it he will be all supportive but when it comes down to it it wont happen. 
Last time i asked him if he could just keep bs out of the dining room where i would study.  But wouldnt.  He was forever not keeping tabs on bs and then when i would ask him to keep him out it would be "oh he wants to see his mummy".

in the end i had to leave the house to study and go to my mums house. But it made it hard as she doesnt have any internet connection there so would have to only do what i could do kinda thing. 

im thinking by the time i go bs will be 1.5 years old so might be a bit easier. 

[~Bumpkin~]

I honestly would not be able to study without Dh's support and help. I have been doing just one unit / semester and already find that a bit of a struggle sometimes.
If you are able to put baby BS in care and have a day or two completely to yourself to study I think it is manageable.